5 Insights from a Homebody

Written by Ellie Steltz on 02/23/19

I know the word “homebody” can have a negative connotation. It may bring to mind someone who stays couped up in their home, hiding from society. As a homebody myself, however, I tend to see it from a more positive perspective. Here are a few little insights that I've gained along the way:

Photo by Kortni Maria

1. Slow down and appreciate what you have.

In our society today, there is so much being thrown at us to distract us from the life in front of us. Whether it’s social media where we see how beautiful everyone else’s life is, and if only I had… fill in the blank. Or ads telling us we need this or that. There is just a lot of content encouraging us to get more. I believe it is so important for us to pause and choose to be thankful for all that we DO have.

2. Create a Safe Space

Our homes should be a reflection of ourselves and how we want to make people feel. There is nothing wrong with putting love and effort into your home. There is a fine line between loving your space and putting too much of your worth in it. Add things to your home that create the atmosphere you want for yourself and your guests. For me and David, the biggest thing we do to create atmosphere is light candles! It's amazing what a difference it makes. Because our values include using products that honor this earth and support small businesses owners, we get most of our candles from Candelles, a candle company in PA that hand pour their candles with soy wax and take care of their customers. I want our home to reflect our values, and that is one small way we do that.

3. It’s okay to take time for yourself.

In a world of to do lists and planners, it’s easy to get caught up in a state of people pleasing or needing to check things of a list to feel like you’ve had a good day. (Believe me, I get caught up in this all the time!). I’ve been learning how important it is to pause and take time for yourself; to remind yourself that your value isn’t found in what you accomplish. You are valuable. Period. So pour yourself a glass of wine, light a candle, draw a bath and just be.

4. Put things in your home that give you life.

Our home is where we spend so much of our time. It is easy to collect stuff that just takes up space. It's important to only bring items into your home that add value or spark joy (thanks Marie Kondo for inspiring us all!)

5. Be yourself, but...

You were created with intention and beauty, quirks and all! You may love staying home more than anything and that is awesome. Or you may love being out on the town, interacting with people and gaining new experiences. That is awesome too! I think we need to recognize that the things we love are a part of what makes us who we are. We don't need to feel guilty about them! However, I do think it is easy to get trapped in our comfort zones. We just love being home and having time to ourselves that we neglect relationships. Or you are out all the time and neglect yourself! Either way, I want to encourage you to evaluate yourself a bit and make sure you aren't neglecting those important things.

Photo by Kortni Maria

None of this is hugely mind blowing or deeply enlightening, it's simply some things I've picked up along the way. I hope you know these are things I am always working at (and failing at often). I struggle with building up the energy to get out sometimes. I struggle with collecting too much clutter in my life and taking time for myself. But that is what comes with being human! I hope these little insights can leave you with some ideas and reminders.

All my love,

Ellie

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